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Party with Paperless Post

(adorable coffee stationery from Paperless Post to jot off cute caffeine-powered notes)

This post is in cooperation with PP and they compensated me with credits to use on their site for my honest review. These are NOT affiliate links.

I'd heard about Paperless Post but I'd never actually tried them. Until now. 

Paperless Post is a unique company...they provide high-quality stationary, delivered electornically. 
 It's the e-vites you used to get in a CC'd email, minus the clip art and the multi-colored, overly bolded text. This used to be gauche. It used to be tacky. But not now, not this. 

This is CLASSY. 
This is MODERN. 
This is...way too much fun! 

I'm an etiquette girl, one might say a student of etiquette, from the time I was very small. My mother and I collect books on etiquette and wrote a monthly column for a local magazine on etiquette for 2 years. E-vites used to be a no-go. Paperless Post has completely changed the game. I don't even want to call these e-vites becuase they are just too pretty for that. They nailed it with the name Paperless Post. They cleverly capture the experience of designing every detail of an invitation suite, down to the stamp, and deliver it seamlessly.

I love being able to send cards in a jiffy, so I know they will arrive at just the right moment, or when I'm being a terrible secretary of my own life and forget to send a card in the mail on time. They're also perfect for invitations (and much less expensive) and a great way to get the look you want without spending hundreds of dollars. Kate Spade designs? They've got 'em. Rifle Paper Co.? Check. Old-fashioned telegram style, newspaper style, bright florals, subdued watercolors, modern marble, gleaming gold...yep, they've got it. 

Here are some of my favorite designs I whipped up: 


How cute is this letterpress telegram, on a custom background, for the release of The Self-Discipline Handbook next year? I love it. 


Or THIS darling one, which I'm pretty sure I might use, for my birthday in just a few short months...30...ohmygoodness howisthatpossible Lordhelpme. But this darling invitation soothes the sting a little, and of course I'd need to wear a striped shirt with gold bangles and red nails and have a pink confetti balloon to BE the girl on the invitation. 



You can choose all of the details too...it actually looks like you are opening mail on screen, complete with a custom postmark, your choice of adorable stamps, and an envelope liner. 


I made this one for my mom, who is looking to move. Maybe this will inspire her to find just the right new place :) The design is by Felix Doolittle, one of my absolute FAVORITE paper stationers, which I write about in Happy Pretty Messy. I'm thrilled to see their designs having a wider reach.

As you can tell, this gets a little bit addicting. Try it out for your next birthday party, barbecue, big announcement, or even your wedding invitations. But I think my favorite thing is sendign out birthday cards and thank you cards. It's also not too early to start thinking about...gasp...Christmas cards!

Enjoy!
xo
Natalie 




Hi, Nice To Meet You

So a mentor in my life suggested I try online dating. CRINGE CRINGE CRINGE. She suggested it so that I can get some "positive feedback" that I am still desirable at age 29.5, ha. It was homework, though, and I'm always a sucker for getting A's, so I set up my profile. Man, they don't make that easy, do they? "Who are you and what are you looking for?" WOAH HEY that's personal and I can't just WRITE ABOUT it for EVERYONE to see!

But I've been working on it, you guys. Things I've come up with so far to put in my online dating profile:

+ I've had my office fish for a year and I've yet to see him poop. He must poop, right? I see poop when I clean his tank, but I don't understand how a fish even poops. This stresses me out.

+I'm considering getting a body pillow. How depressing on a scale of 1-10 is that? How depressing is it that the main thing stopping me is that I sleep in a TWIN bed and I don't think there's room for both me and a human substitute?

+I was eating soup in bed late the other night (first mistake), and I spilled some. No, let me be more specific: I was wearing a shirt and no bra, and a noodle slipped down my shirt. I just...don't...even...know...how to explain my way outta that one.

+Was at prayer meeting last night, head bowed, and I opened my eyes for a minute and realized my fly was unzipped. Zippers aren't quiet, but I zipped up anyway, how could I not?

Overall I'd say I'm gonna be innundated with interested men, wouldn't you think? #nailedit #killingit #aintnothang #howido #youknowit #doinggreatatlife

50 Things to Do When You're Sad and Lonely

I saw an article on Facebook the other day that said June is the month when the most breakups happen. And two days later I got dumped. Big time.

I've had my share of heartbreak, or more than. And I'm going through it again right now. My boyfriend of almost-a-year broke up with me a week ago today. So this is for me, just as much as it is for you...things I've learned in past heartbreaks and things I'm learning now that help ease the pain a little bit.

There's no way to erase the pain of feeling sad and lonely. There just isn't. Trust me, I sure wish my Mr. Clean Magic Eraser worked on life. But these things help refocus you, redirect your heart, help you laugh, leave things behind, and learn to do life better on your own.

See a breakup takes things from you. It just does. It takes your self-esteem and self-confidence. It takes your sense of security. It takes away a circle of influence and friends (his family, his friends, things you did together). It takes away the things that filled your time (evening walks, television shows you watched together, plans you probably still have for future dates that make you incredibly sad). My boyfriend and I had all sorts of summer plans, both firm and loose. The friend's wedding in Maine (firm). Going to watch a Little League baseball game at the ball field down the street (loose). Going camping!!!! (loose) The vintage camper rally (firm).

These things won't be happening. But the things below? The things below will. The things below are firm plans. I WILL do them, my heart MUST do them, my summer will not be torn apart by a man who doesn't want me, doesn't love me. How dare he, I say. How dare he decide he doesn't love me. And then I say...yes, actually, I'm glad he dared. I'm glad he did because I loved him, but I do not want a man who doesn't love me back. I deserve more than that. So do you.

These things give life back to you. They give love back to you. Take heart, dear one...you might be sad, and you might be lonely, but you are no unloved or unworthy. Never.

I painted this and it's taped by the lightswitch on my way out the front door


"But listen to me. For one moment quit being sad. Hear blessings dropping their blossoms around you."
 ~Rumi 

1.) Buy Happy Pretty Messy (read, review on Amazon ;))

2.) Try your hand at baking macarons.

3.) Change the sheets. It always makes you feel better. If you have some money to splurge, get a pair of Egyptian cotton sheets. You'll feel like a princess.

4.) Throw away his toothbrush. Or use it to scrub your dirtiest bathroom grout and THEN throw it away. That's what it's good for, and what it deserves.

5.) Have a tag sale. Sell all of the things that remind you of him, clear out clutter, make a few extra bucks, talk to some people, and it keeps you busy on a Saturday morning.

6.) Try blue mascara. It's fun, I like it, and it's $3. See if anyone notices. He certainly wouldn't have.

7.) Watch the Bridget Jones' Diary trilogy and cry your heart out.

My poetry in a German literary magazine

8.) Write some poetry. About how horrible he was.

9.) Clean out the kitchen cupboards.

10.) Clean behind the refrigerator.

11.) Watch this video.

12.) Blast "I Will Survive" and dance your heart out.

13.) Host a tea party.

Me and my Grandma, one of my biggest fans!


14.) Call your mom, dad, grandma, aunt, uncle...call your loved ones. Hear their voices.

15.) Go to the water. Whatever water you can get. In order of preference Ocean>Lake>Pond>Bath>Shower

16.) Send postcards to a few family and friends. They're a novelty item now.

17.) Buy new, ridiculously soft, incredibly fluffy towels.

18.) Drink a cup of tulsi tea. It reduces stress and balances mood. I'm drinking one right now as I write this.


19.) Get a hot water bottle if you don't have one. I highly suggest heart-shaped! I can't survive without mine for snuggles.

20.) Invest in a weighted blanket that helps you feel like you're being hugged. It reduces anxiety and stress.

21.) Spend an afternoon volunteering at the local pregnancy center, food pantry, women's shelter, career help center, Boys & Girls club, Habitat for Humanity, United Way, animal shelter, etc. VolunteerMatch can help. Bonus: You often get free t-shirts when you volunteer ;) I have a few from building playgrounds for schools, doing Habitat for Humanity, and more, and I love them.

22.) Go to church.

23.) Read Susan Branch's blog for a taste of the simple things in life.

24.) Check out a pass from your library to go to a local museum for free. Most libraries offer free passes to local museums nowadays, and you can reserve them ahead of time online.

25.) Make some money on the side by signing up for Swagbucks or eBates to pad your budget.

26.) That thing you do, that everyone always says you could sell? Sell it. Use Etsy, eBay, CafePress, Shutterstock.com, local Facebook groups, and in local boutiques.

27.) Consign some of your fancy clothes for credit, or "free shopping" as I like to call it. If you don't have a local place, check out TheRealReal for designer clothes and ThredUp or Swap.com for regular duds.

28.) Get some new clothes with a purpose. Shop on Schoola where they donate profits back to schools. You can actually see which schools  will be getting the profit from what you purchase.

29.) Reach out to mentors and people in your life you admire and ask them to write you recommendation letters. Of course a breakup always spurs thoughts of career change, but even if it doesn't, these letters are good to have on file and will boost your confidence.

30.) Write a book. Seriously.

31.) Spend time with kids. If you or your friends don't have kids, or your nieces and nephews don't live nearby, volunteer or get a part time job at an after-school program or daycare. Kids are good fro the soul, make you laugh deeply, and offer love freely.

32.) Read books before they actually come out (called a galley) for free by reviewing them on NetGalley.



33.) Pre-order my next book The Self-Discipline Handbook. It will arrive at your doorstep in January when you're ready to take over the world again.

34.) Get a new, amazing bra that makes you feel VA VA VOOM. My friend Kimmay can help! She's been on national television multiple times helping women find the perfect bra for them, and how they are more than just numbers (age, bra size, clothing size, number of kids, income, etc.) She's amazing and will rock your world.

35.) Watch Little Women, the Winona Ryder version from 1994. This is my go-to "need a cry" movie, it's heartwarming and heart-wrenching, beautiful and bleak, and it always warms my heart and inspires me, particularly in winter.

36.) Go to an event at the local high school. Support the football team, booster club, drama club, etc. Most high schools put on superb plays and concerts, and the cost of admission is low and supports the school.

37.) Spend the night away from home, but not alone. Being in your own comfort space feels good for awhile, but eventually you need to remember what it's like to wake up in a new place with new possibilities. Ask a friend if you can borrow their guest room for a night, or grab a friend and go on an overnight adventure.

38.) Get a new welcome mat for your front door.



39.) Paint your nails the color the exact color the QUEEN uses!

40.) Sew yourself some new pillow cases. It's one of the easiest projects, you can do it in an afternoon, and you get to go shopping for cute new fabric.

41.) Listen to this song on repeat. Preferably while writing poetry. "You don't need to change a thing about you...the guy that says goodbye to you is out of his mind."

42.) Follow george_and_charlotte on Instagram for doses of the incredible cuteness that is George and Charlotte, Prince and Princess.

43.) Make yourself some cute bath products, such as my mojito lip scrub and lavender-lemon lotion from Gifts in Jars.

44.) Re-read Happy Pretty Messy. I need to read this book to myself like, daily. And I'm the one who wrote it.


45.) Set up a slackline. I talk about it in Happy Pretty Messy and it's easy to do, and one of my favorite things.

46.) Treat yourself to the best of the best of chocolate and wine for a little bit. Splurge, indulge, enjoy.

47.) Make a list of the things you like about yourself, big and small. Things he didn't notice. Things like the curve of your tummy to your hip and the way you make coffee in the morning because you've perfected the pour for the pour-over coffee.

48.) Accept every invitation that comes your way. You need life right now, and adventure.

49.) Drive for 2 hours. Go somewhere. Go anywhere 2 hours away, just do it.

50.) Rest in the knowledge that if he couldn't see your beauty, your worth, your radiance...if he wasn't willing to do anything for you, if he didn't engage emotionally, or didn't put you first, or didn't think you were good enough, HE wasn't good enough for you. YOU WIN. He loses out. He lost you.

This hurt won't last forever. 
YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS. 
Shine even brighter into the world, you beautiful thing, you.

Boss Lady Jumpsuit



Posing during a book signing at The Toadstool Bookshop in Keene, NH

GUYS. This BOSS LADY Jumpsuit is just perfect for summer Happy Pretty Messy book signings. I love how it is structured and work-appropriate (for me), but also just fun and carefree. It's ideal. AND IT HAS POCKETS. And, um, did I mention its only $14? Yeah, you heard right, it's only $14 from Tobi. They sent it to me for free to review. My honest review? LOVE. IT.


Wearing the pink clogs mentioned in Happy Pretty Messy, of course! 



$14 you guys. Pockets. Strapless or straps. Perfection.


I love it. You will too.


You'll shine it in, I know you will.
Get your boss lady (jumpsuit) on.

Love,
Natalie 

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Pretty Party Dress and Lush Faux Fur

(Tobi provided these clothes to me for free in exchange for my post and honest review!)

Can you TELL by this photo how GLAM I am feeling in this crazy-cozy faux-fur collar cocoon sweater? It's like a little winter sleeping bag of glamour that I can wear with anything. It's so luxurious one lady thought it was real. The only thing that would make this EVEN better is a tiny little clasp to hold the two sides of the cardigan together, but I can add that with two stitches so it's no big deal. This also comes in burgundy, which I think would just be FAB with dark red lipstick and sunglasses. So movie-star-esque.


This is the lace skater dress I chose to wear for my birthday brunch with my boyfriend. He was horrified at the amount of skin showing since it was January, but I am wearing hose, thick high wool socks, a cashmere sweater, a scarf, and the big cocoon coat on top. I was quite cozy in our little round booth as we ate deliciously soft scrambled eggs with local bacon, fresh fruit, and seasoned potatoes. Mmmmmm, can it be my birthday every day?

Tobi also sent me a "boss lady" jumpsuit and I picked up a top of theirs on my own, so I'll be back with another post. In the meantime, go check this company out. I was quite worried, having never heard of them before, but now I'm seeing their stuff everywhere. I even saw a new with tags attached dress at my favorite consignment shop. The sizes fit normally (just pay attention to the measurements, but these are all smalls and fit me just fine!), the shipping and packaging was great. They have SO many cute things! 

I'm excited for the weather to warm up a bit so I can shed a few of these layers and take this dress out for a spin again. I think that means the boyfriend will have to treat me to a half-birthday brunch. Totally legit, right? 

(aaaand I totally just saw Tobi is having a 1/2 off site-wide sale so get overrrrrrr there!)

xo
Natalie 

Happy Socks!

 
(cupcake socks!!! affiliate links below :))

 Have you tried Woven Pear socks? They are SO MUCH FUN! I can't get over their unique, sassy, witty and colorful designs. They release new designs all the time, and they each have something special, such as a saying on the bottom or contrasting pattern. Mine are cupcakes, and the bottoms have sprinkles! I adore them and I call them my "happy socks" when I need a pick me up. I ordered a few of these for Christmas gifts too because I can't resist their happiness and everyone needs some happy socks in their life. Don't you? FREE SHIPPING right now in the US! Shop Women's Socks

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Happy happy-socks, my friends!
xo
Natalie 

End of Year Review


Merry Christmas, darlings! 

{studio pretties}

Hi friends!

I am thinking over 2016 and what a wonderful, busy, marvelous year it has been...and I hope you can say the same. Here are a few of the things I've been working on.

{gifts in jars in barnes + noble!!!!!}

{making gifts in jars in the studio!}

Gifts in Jars was released on October 18, 2016. It is so much fun to see my book on shelves across the country, to sign copies at Barnes & Noble, to read your reviews on Amazon (keep 'em coming!) and to host Gifts in Jars workshops in my studio. It's been a fun ride!

{FIRST LOOK! She's so pretttttty!}


I got the first copies of Happy, Pretty, Messy IN MY HANDS! This is my first book, my heart book (even though it's releasing second) and it comes out on February 7, 2017. It's available for pre-order NOW!

{making pretty food even prettier in the studio in my favorite apron and socks!}

So yes, I wrote 2 books this year. I also food styled another cookbook, which was awesome and I loved being able to do it in my own studio space this time.


On top of that, I signed contracts for TWO more NEW books due next year! I've got lots of writing to do :) And I'll be teaching poetry this semester at a local college.

It has been a good year for my heart. Poetry, food styling, writing books...my heart is full and grateful for it all.

Much love,
Natalie


Le Tote Review and FREE BOX for YOU!

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I have had my first LE TOTE box for 1 month and the second one is on its way to me...I am TAKEN by this service! I LOVED every single piece they sent me and wore each piece 2+ times. You can see the items they sent me and my initial impressions in my Unboxing Vlog HERE and you can try it yourself for free by clicking here! (affiliate links!) 

Some of my favorite outfits with items from the box: 

Tarte top and Octavia necklace

The Tarte top had a racerback and HIGH tulip hem! 

Wore several times, but loved it with these J.Crew floral shorts and blue sandals!

Next up is this gorgeous blue and black striped swirly wrap skirt! 

So very chic! I loved this and the way the wind made it move. Also wearing with the necklace (I pretty much didn't take this necklace off all month).

Tunic dress with great details...little tiny feathers all over! 

And the hem is longer in the back. AND no surprise I'm wearing the necklace again!

I also received a zebra scarf I wore on chilly nights. I really loved how everything in my box was coordinated and I could easily make outfits out of them all month. 

I can't wait to see what I get in my next box. The SECOND the post office scanned my return bag (so easy and free), Le Tote emailed that they saw it was on it's way and they were starting to style my next tote.

You can purchase any of the items at a discount, but after much mulling I decided to send all of these items back and rent some more!

YOU can try a Tote for FREE for 14 days using this link and code (affiliate link):


I hope you try it and LOVE it as much as I do!

Le Tote First Box Free



Pura Vida bracelets

Pura Vida Best Sellers
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Have you tried the Pura Vida bracelets? Pura Vida means Pure Life and the bracelets are all handmade in Costa Rica by a team of 100 locals. I can't get over how cute and summery they look in a big ole' stack!

Happy shopping!
Natalie

Le Tote Trial



Hi guys! I FINALLY filmed another vlog...the unboxing of my first LE TOTE ! Le Tote is a clothing rental subscription company. They send you 3 pieces of clothing and 2 accessories and you can wear them as many times as you want in a month before sending them back (dirty!) and getting another selection next month. Or if you send the items back sooner, you can get another box the same month. It is $59 a month, and if you like something, you can keep it at a reduced price. I'm SUPER excited by the items in my first box and can't wait to wear them. Have you tried LE TOTE ? What did you think? This is NOT a sponsored post but the links are affiliate links :) Try it free for 14 days!!

  Le Tote First Box Free

Enjoy!!
Natalie 

Freelance + Freshbooks

As my freelance business has grown, I've really been trying to keep up with the growth and create systems for my workflow.

One thing that makes this so much easier is FreshBooks, a cloud accounting, invoicing and expense-tracking system that I really love. I'm an affiliate for them now, because I use them so much, so if you click through any of my FreshBooks links and decide to sign up, I get a commission at no charge to you!

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I used to make a new Word document invoice every time for every client, and email it. FreshBooks lets me send out recurring invoices, lets me email it as a PDF or Word, and they will even print it out and mail it for me (they include a return envelope)! It's awesome! My invoices have my logo and are easily searchable by client, and I can track paid and unpaid invoices. Clients can even pay me by PayPal or credit card, an option I never had before.

I also love the automatic expense tracking. Once you import the bank info (totally secure) for your business checking and credit card accounts, they automatically import your expenses and categorize them for you. WHAT HOW AMAZING IS THAT.

There is also a time-tracking feature, which is awesome for my bigger projects (like book writing). My favorite feature here is the real-time TIMER button, where you start and stop the timer and it automatically adds the time to your invoice. Woah-hey.

The mobile app lets me snap a picture of a receipt and add it to expenses so I can ditch the receipts crumbled up at the bottom of my purse for "sorting later" (you did that too, right?). And P&L statements? Literally click a button. I just love that I can access this anywhere, too, since being mobile is part of my freelance business.

FreshBooks is priced at $12.95 for up to 5 clients, then it goes up incrementally, but tops out at $39.95 a month for unlimited clients (click here for more pricing details & to start your free 30-day trial: Pricing). Trust me, this is nothing compared to the time and frustration this saves, which means I can add more billable time and projects to my week instead of spending it on invoicing, adding expenses, etc.

I truly love FreshBooks and if you run your own thriving small business, encourage you to check it out!

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